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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My H and I had a very active sex life and he had an affair. I did not slow down the sex with him (even though I threw him out).

Really, sex is fun and I was not giving it up like that just because his insecurities had him run to another woman to stroke his ego. (At least until I had a replacement.)

Alas, his OW ended up being a psycho, he came crawling back and we are together.

It is totally normal to like sex and to want to continue having sex with your HUSBAND. [/quote]

Just curious, why did you take him back? From your post it seems you found a "replacement" when you threw him out.[/quote]

I realized he was having a nervous breakdown and I cared about his future. I was his support system even during the worst times. He agreed to go to counseling to figure out why he would try to blow up a perfect life. I counted this part of his life "in sickness".

I realize I married an imperfect person (we all are) and most things can be forgiven. The affair was something he did to himself, not something he did to me.

I wanted our kids to have an intact family (though I have many divorced friends that are happy/healthy) I thought it was worth a try.

I did not "find a replacement" but I told him I would stop sleeping with him when I found one. It would not have taken long to find somebody. As soon as he moved out I had multiple requests to go out. My counselor told me to wait at least 6 months before "dating".  The whole ordeal was less than 6 months long. [/quote]

I am not sure what I would do in that situation but I really respect your approach.  You weren't a martyr or trying to hold onto someone that didn't want to stay.  You were confident of your worth and that you could get someone else but was willing to give the marriage another shot  and forgive if he was putting in the effort.[/quote]

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