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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My aunt was 25 when she married her 40 yo husband. They had 3 kids. She's now 55, he's 70. The difference is stark. She's full of pep and he's really slowed down. She doesn't have to take care of him, at least not yet. She knows that she will likely have a great many years alone, and feels sad about it often.[/quote]

This is why I refused to date someone significantly older than me. My husband is 3 years older than me, and I like the fact that we're aging at roughly the same pace.[/quote]

And yet you could find out tomorrow that you have MS or Parkinsons or leukemia and then it wouldn't matter how similarly you were aging. Any spouse can get sick at any time. It is the price we ALL pay when we commit to someone else. To care for them in sickness, no matter how old or how long.[/quote]

*sigh*

Yes, obviously this is a risk we all take, and should it happen, I will embrace the life we can have together. But there's a difference between accepting it as a risk and deciding to sign up for it as a near-certainty.[/quote]

The only thing certain in life is death.  I come from a family where the men are vigorous well into their 80s and with a few exceptions from cancer or complications from earlier trauma all live well into their 90s.  I could live to be 95 and she could die in a car accident tomorrow.  There's a history of breast cancer in her family.  Should I have passed on the chance to be with her because of that? Should I have taken the high road and not dated and then married my much younger wife to spare her the pain of being alone after I die?  Or should we both have rejoiced that we found each other and continue to enjoy each day we have left together?[/quote]

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