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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You know, I've seen some awful behavior on DCUM, but this has to be among the worst. First of all, the quid pro quo that you are invoking is between the parent and the child. [b]My parents raise me as best they can, and in turn I will try to ease their burden at the end of their lives. [/b]Not they raise me, AND they raise my children, and then if I think they've spent their lives in a meaningful fashion I will maybe help them out. Your MIL has raised her children, and you obviously thought she did a good job because you married one of them. So you need to get over the idea that somehow she has to work for you in order to earn your respect.

It's obvious that you don't like your MIL, and you are using your child as a weapon to exact your revenge on her life choices. Why don't you separate what YOU want from her (free child care) from the red herring that you are concerned about their financial future? Why hasn't your husband talked to them about their retirement savings and planning? It's unfathomable to me that nobody in your family cares enough to try to help them make a plan. If FIL is still working, they can still put together a few assets and do some planning. Has your husband already washed his hands of them?

Where are your parents in all this? They're not raising your child either. Do they get a pass because they're your parents, not his? Do you expect your husband to step up and help them out in their old age? Because all of our parents are going to require help at some time, even if it's not financial.

And with all of this nonsense about your good job and how you're such a high earner, hard worker, etc etc., why is it so difficult to pay for daycare for one child? Serious question. It doesn't sound like you'd be in much of a position to help his parents at all if daycare is "eating into your finances" so much.

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