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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you who had career losses/job losses that caused unhappiness -- esp those who were workaholics/on a traditional path and somehow lost that -- did you all just take a job and accept it for what it was and use your time for other things be it dating, family, volunteering, whatever? Or are there folks who affirmatively found themselves another workaholic type of position -- whether it was good or bad -- so they could throw themselves into work and feel "normal" again?[/quote]16:17 here.  The difference for me was that I had to let go of a career at that point because keeping at it would have been difficult for my family.  So I have a family and that's something that OP does not.  I took other jobs but none were workaholic type jobs (I was a workaholic when I was younger and I know what a crazy deadend that is so I learned to let go of my addiction to work.)  However, I felt like a failure and it was a real struggle because my dh and friends were all in the field I had to leave.  I struggled with feelings that were, well, not really suicidal, but thinking how things would just be easier if I weren't here.  Things changed slowly but what really made the difference was getting involved in a sports team.  I feel great everyday because I'm in shape and I have people I can hang with.  I feel the same way about my volunteering.  My fellow boardmembers are talented and committed people who care about the world.  However, sometimes I am reminded of my former career and I still feel sad but I realize that I'm employed, in good shape, have a community, and a family -- and those are things that most people would be grateful for.  So the answer is that it took a long, long time to find acceptance - but what made the difference was finding other things in my life that had meaning besides work.

I hope the OP finds some peace.  This is a cliche but life is really a journey.  Good luck, OP![/quote]

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