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[quote=Anonymous]Another wife here, although my parents (Actually my dad and stepmother) are the difficult ones, although not that bad.

One thing that is really important is to schedule outings as a PP suggested without DW.  Make them regular.  Give your DW a break.  And make them active -- go to the zoo, a library, something where everyone can interact. And also that you can go home from at any time when things are done.

You may find this impossible this moment if, for example DW is still breastfeeding, but that will change very quickly.  You should also schedule events as PPs have suggested, but this will give your DW at least some kind of positive side to your in laws.

Also, you need to stand up for your DW and her family.  Continue to invite your parents to things like (and yes, they will come up soon) her birthday party and preschool programs, where there is only one and everyone might want to come.  If they still feel slighted, that's their problem although you should remind them that her parents didn't do wrong and that you are not taking their side on this.  And when you are together with your parents and DW, your wife needs to be civil but it is *your* responsibility to shut down any negative, passive aggressive or hostile comments.  You take your wife's side in this anonymous forum, now act like it in person like a grownup.  And if your sister calls to complain about how you are a jerk give her the same lines.  Either she's rational and will understand, or she's not and she'll just have to learn to accept reality too.

As other posters have said, you need to grow up and realize that you'll have to manage nonideal family dynamics.  That's how life is.  
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