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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are going to get absolutely slaughtered here, so brace yourself.[/quote]

Oh, I knew this was going to happen.  I am just venting...I don't really care.

[quote=Anonymous]Is your wife in any way experiencing PP depression?[/quote]

No, not a bit.  And she bounced back pretty quickly really.  A few tears and times when she missed him after she went back to work, but she's actually doing really well.

[quote=Anonymous]I'm assuming this is your first child. How is life with the baby and the adjustment going, in general? Is your wife back to work or staying home?[/quote]

We both took leave (she for 2 months, me for one), and I do more of the daily child-related stuff, and most of the household chores (laundry, shopping, cooking).  The baby is easy, sleeps through the night (for since the 2 month mark) and we're actually adjusting shockingly well.  Most people I know with small children are envious and snarky about it.

[quote=Anonymous]In all honesty, I agree with you. She does need to start dropping the weight, but I'm trying to understand if there are other, more pressing factors getting in the way.[/quote]

Time is the big issue - between job and commute, she just doesn't have time for the gym.  I don't think the gym is the main issue though.  I've shifted the cooking and meals, but the lunchtime fast food and ice cream for between meals snacks is packing it on.

For those who say "you're not allowed to judge" - it's not "judging" (I don't say a word to her about what she's eating or her weight), it's just that I can't help but seeing that she is getting bigger, and it's not baby.   [b]And when you say "for a year" - you realize, the longer it's on, the harder it will be to get off - and it will probably never come off. [/b] [/quote]

I'm not going to comment generally on your little rant here, but you just can't make blanket statements like your last one - "the longer it's on, the harder it will be to get off".  Maybe that's true for you, and maybe that was true for your wife before pregnancy.  I have two kids, and with both, during the first year I was breastfeeding, my weight was up and down.  I would take off some of the pregnancy weight, then put it back on.  I had a truly difficult time resisting "junk" food and my appetite was crazy.  I could not take the weight off at all.  Note that prior to having kids, I never struggled with my weight, I ran marathons, etc.  Both times, I had no trouble losing the weight after 1 year, which is when I was not really nursing anymore.  My body just returned to normal and the weight came off with no real changes in diet or exercise.

Also please note that I really struggled to fit in exercise before 1 year or so as well.  You may feel as though you are giving your wife time to do so - my DH did too - but because I also worked full time, I struggled with feeling guilty about spending even more time away from my kid(s).  That was particularly so around 5-8 months, because I had just gone back to work.  But in a couple of months, your baby will be sitting and crawling and can ride in a jogging stroller, which was awesome for me.

Anyway, maybe try to understand things from your wife's perspective, and remind yourself that post-pregnancy weight loss for a nursing woman is not the same for everyone.[/quote]

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