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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think it's great that you are being generous with your time and home with the older child (and tolerant of the toddler).  If it were me, I would be really put off by a family that is more than happy to have you (essentially) babysit and take their child on adventures, but cannot even bother to speak with you or acknowledge you.  [/quote]

You ARE right  :( 
I've spoken with them now, well sent an email to be sure they got all the information - and offered to speak about it in person as a follow-up.  I was mostly explicit about backing off the religious talk.  This was 3 days ago and I have not heard back from the mother - not a word about it.

The daughter being very cool with me but still has the nerve to knock on the door to ask the boys to play (fine) while ignoring me or eyeing me with disdain/hostility.  I'm certainly going to call her out on this if it continues.  So you identified probably an even more relevant issue: ignoring and silence which make up the little slights that are actually bullying.  A popular form of bullying.

The father did respond, and quickly, w/ msg mostly saying his daughter is new to her faith and figuring out how to handle it.  He placed all the responsibility and accountability of everything I said on the daughter.  Then he added how much she loves our sons and the other child loves my husband.  Again - message being?  I am the evil one they don't like?  How about thanking me for actually being the facilitator for my children to be so nice, friendly, fun and easygoing and our house being one they want to come to?  Nope!  Someone else must have made all that happen - couldn't have been me!

Re. the mom not wanting to engage with me, how do women treat each other in these fundamentalist Christian denominations?  I only have one friend who belongs to one.  And she is so nice and focused on her family and being a good person that she can ignore the #$%&; to a point.  She's also very wealthy so maybe in her church she's handled carefully.

Do the teachings of righteousness and exclusivity cultivate more cattiness and haughtiness than other settings/teachings?  I'm thinking of ISIL and the voluntary brides of ISIL leaders who abuse their "inferiors" - other women - so badly.  Is it fair to compare?  For people who've experienced fundamentalist Christianity is ignoring/blaming/judging (I think this is form of bullying) common among church members? [/quote]

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