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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you have a couple of issues going on here, a demanding job (which is what you chose and that's okay), a toddler (they take every bit of energy) and [b]gazillion social commitments (totally avoidable)[/b]. Now add in your desire to have ME time and there are not enough hours in the day, as a PP already mentioned, something has got to give because[b] you can't have it all at the same time.[/b]

Stop saying yes to every invitation which comes your way and make more time for yourself and your family. It is your decision.[/quote]

+1  especially to the "you can't have it all at the same time."  I think about life as having a variety of seasons -- when it's the toddler + demanding job season that's a time to scale back other activities and focus on the essentials.  That's kid/spouse/job + time for whatever it is that helps you feel sane, be it a weekly coffee date with your best friend or a morning run or (for me) time blocked out each evening for reading.

Kids grow up, their needs change, your needs change.  My kids are now in middle school and I am back to a regular (non-parenting) volunteer commitment and performing with a musical group.  We can travel again to fun places.  Also, the time with lots of engagement/wedding/baby parties is also a season of life.  It won't be like this forever.  I haven't been to a baby shower in ages and the only weddings I attend these days are for the children of my cousins.  That season is followed by the years of little kid birthday parties but those also pass.  Now that the kids are in middle school, birthday parties are less frequent since kids just invite their close circle of friends. Now we're back to hosting our own parties for our friends when we feel like it!

I love being a parent and feel my life is much richer through my experiences with them than it was when I was single.  I had that "is this all there is" feeling when I was single/no-kids but don't recall feeling that once I became a parent.

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