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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Strung along", to me, is equivalent of "not that into you" OR "not that into being in the kind of relationship you want".

You know it's happening when the other person doesn't reciprocate your level of interest and/or committment. Want to know if it's happening to you? Ask the other person where they see the relationship going and how they feel about it. Compare that to what you want and how you feel. A mismatch indicates that it is time to reevaluate the relationship and likely move on. GL.[/quote]

I think this is very good advice.  I'm a guy and have only been strung along once or twice.  It becomes clear when you realize the level of interest isn't really reciprocal.  Men and women can be "commitment phobic" and kind of string you along - they aren't able to move forward, but don't really want to let you go either.

I most recently went through this with an "emotionally unavailable" woman who would be hot-then-cold-then-hot-then-cold.  More than once I had the "gee, you don't really seem to like me that much...is that true?".  Each time she'd backpedal hard and things would get slightly better for a while, and then gradually revert.  I think she actually did like me, but had massive commitment (trust, terrible daddy) issues.  This crap started 3 months into the relationship, and I foolishly dragged on with it for 18 months.  Ultimately, she settled for plan-b, a guy she'd put into the friendzone, but kept on ice as her emergency backup (for when even IVF was about to disappear as an option), and went with him.  I actually was pretty lucky, because I met my now-wife, who is a gazillion times better (and emotionally available).[/quote]

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