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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - you probably want to think about what your Plan B would be if the private school asked you to leave, or not return next year because they feel they can't manage the emotional or behavioral issues. It can happen - hopefully it won't - and you need to know what you would do next. [/quote]

OP here- yes, it's dawning on me that if things get much worse, DS may not be able to remain in his school. I've been trying to look at it as feedback on how difficult things really are, rather than something to be distressed about.

I'm coming to the realization that I *help* DS too much (this was touched in by one of the other PPs). Without my constant intervention, DS would have more external problems. On the one hand, it helps us function day to day, on the other, DS needs to build more skills and apply them independently. My point is that if DD cannot function well in a school with little formal accommodation, then he needs the formal accommodations of a therapeutic private school or a public school with a written plan for behavior challenges. I don't always know what doesn't work until it doesn't work, what will get better, and what may get whole lot worse. It's been the nature of raising a child with ADHD and social deficits- at least in our house.

Another PP talked about the "cool" kids in private school and finding a group/tribe when you're quirky and challenged. It made me laugh because it's true- the boys in DS's class seem much more competent and their interests/abilities seem more aligned with boy currency (in our area, boy currency is team sports). It's interesting (tangent) I was talking with another mom whose son definitely fits this generalization. She said that her son privately prefers more scholarly interests, but hides it because he perceives the boys in class to be primarily focused on sports and he badly wants to fit in. Sometimes our "tribe " is right there-- but everyone has a need for belonging. Fortunately, at our school, cool does not mean unkind. We've had some minor bullying amd exclusion to deal with, but it was short lived.[/quote]

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