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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 38 year old SIL is constantly strung along. It's so obvious to everyone but her. She is desperate to find someone to marry and she is repeatedly put in to a situation where she is waiting for a guy. Waiting for him to work on his problems in life, end his marriage, get over his divorce, his kids aren't ready for him to date, he's having health problems, and so on. 
It always ends badly for her. [/quote]

Sounds like she seeks out "unavailable" men. Some women do this. There's a whole cottage industry of therapists who deal with this.[/quote]

PP here. Bottom feeders are the only ones that seem to give her the time of day. They're always full of problems. She's a 38 year old single mom, never married, never lived on her own.
Lives with her 65 year old mom. I am a believer that we don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. Until she's willing to step up and become something, her cycle will repeat.[/quote]

And she is hardly likely to step up and believe she is worth more with relatives like you standing in the wings to cut her down.  :roll: [/quote]

And there we go with the uninformed cheap shot. You have no idea what's been done to help her. That we've paid for her continued education, or that I've spent 7 unsuccessful years encouraging her in ways to transcend this situation.[/quote]

It's no cheap shot it's a comment on your negative attitude. Doesn't matter what you think you may have done to help her, your lack of respect shines through and if we can see that she is bound to pick up on it. It sounds like you have infantilized her with interfering also.[/quote]

And the SIL's choices have NOTHING to do with anything. [/quote]

She's not here to say now, is she? We are only getting the one-sided view of the negative, patronizing relative who thinks she knows it all.[/quote]

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