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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Check in her circle of friends.  Cutting is a learned behavior.  Our DD dabbled in this and when we sat her down she mentioned a few friends did it.  When we cut off contact with those friends she was cured.  [/quote]

I'm glad that worked for your DD, but I want to suggest that parents may want to be cautious about this advice. Obviously it worked in at least one case, so it may be the right strategy for other kids, but it could also be very much the wrong approach depending on the specific situation as a sudden enforced isolation might be further traumatic for a child who is already clearly overwhelmed. If the teen feels that her entire circle of friends or her main friends and social support system are suddenly just cut out of her life, that could be devastating and scary and just make things worse. Going through something slightly similar with oldest DD now (not cutting, but other mental health challenges that manifest with self-harming behaviors) and creating feelings of social isolation when we tried to get her away from bad influences just resulted in making the situation even worse to where she was nearly having panic attacks and she didn't trust us with further information for a while because she thought we would "overreact" and "take away everything else from her life next". Dramatic? Maybe. Her genuine feelings and interpretation of our actions? Almost certainly. An escalation of the problem? Yes.

Like I said, it's great that PP's DD is no longer cutting, so clearly this worked for her, and advice from btdt parents is always valuable, I just wanted to throw out a word of potential caution. [/quote]

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