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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

For others who've asked....I have some possible redheads in my family including a grandmother (deceased with obviously dyed hair) and a half brother (ideceased - riish lineage on the "different" parent side).  No living relatives who would know.

DS is old enough to know swab is weird so trying to eliminate possibilities.

There are some questions that need answering simply because they have been asked. I think this is one.

The relationship between me and my son will not change.

Can't say same for me and his mother.  [/quote]

OP, please find an objective third party, such as a therapist, to talk to before you take this step. You think your relationship with your son won't change, but you don't know that. If he's not your son and you decide to divorce her, you could end up loosing parental rights if she decides to raise his true paternity in your divorce proceedings. Or you might not divorce, but you may never be able to look at him again, he might become the son of that other guy, the tangible evidence of your wife's betrayal, and you may never be able to love him the same way again. It might also change the way he looks at you when he realizes what it was all about, that maybe you didn't really want him. As for your wife, what if it comes back that your son is yours? Will that satisfy you that she didn't cheat? I doubt it. What if he learns what you did, and that destroys her trust in you and she divorces you anyway?

No one has asked this question but you, and you need to fully weigh the risks before you decide what to do. You're making assumptions about what will and won't change, but you could be wrong about those. Don't rush into this decision.[/quote]

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