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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds like the brief text was his way of reaching out. Panic attacks are very scary and very serious.

Do you know if he told his dad? Is dad supportive at all?

Maybe a trip up there for a quick meal, I know it's a long drive but just a dinner might be just the thing. You can outline for him some things he can do (counseling center, RA, whatever you can come up with) and come up with a plan together on how to move forward.
You could give him notice now and then some time to think about what he wants to do. You want him to take some ownership and responsibility in helping himself, while helping as his mom. It's a fine line!
I feel for you OP![/quote]

Don't do this,,the very definition of helicoptering.[/quote]

I totally disagree.
Taking your child out to dinner for a couple hours and listening to him talk through his problems and come up with solutions together is not helicoptering.
Helicoptering would be calling the RA, the RD, the counseling center and his professors and demanding they fix the child's problems.
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Swooping in to save the day is helicoptering. it suggests that you don't believe your son or daughter can handle the situation independently.  Being homesick or stressed two weeks into college is totally normal.[/quote]

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