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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you just need to forget about BIL. Even though your sister is acting shitty, she's family and you need to be on her side. [/quote]

Eh. I think its entirely situational. My MIL is very close with her former SIL and she's been divorced for over 20 years. DH's aunt/uncle were at our wedding even though his dad had taken off long ago and was at my MIL table. They visit every year or so.

Some families though do better when its treated more like that person died, less drama that way.

I will say though, when the initial shock of all this wears off, there is going to have to be some kind of relationship between your sister and BIL because they have kids. And I generally think its better for the kids to not have to keep both sides so totally separate in their heads. It creates a weird feeling for them sometimes, like they can't talk about what they might have done with their dad last weekend when at your house, etc. Which is just odd. Your DH may have to throttle back his BBF relationship for a bit but honestly it can only help the kids out in the long run if they can continue some kind of friendly relationship. They learn that families change but can still come out ok in the end.[/quote]

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