Reply to Divorce etiquette. What happens to former bil?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Divorce etiquette. What happens to former bil?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]It's not really reasonable to assign blame for who blew this thing up, because what goes on in a marriage can only truly be understood by the people living it.

Her departure strategy is just miserable and demonstrated  zero respect for anyone.  What kind of delusional entitlement does she have that makes expect that everyone is going to know respect her new relationship?   Because she says so?
She sounds incredibly narcissistic or just incredibly naive and immature.

Your sister traded one dependent relationship where she had no power, for a relationship that will destroy any respect she may ever get expect to get from children.   3 weeks and with her friend's husband?   My heat bleeds for the kids in both of those families- not to mention the impact on you.   I hope for everyone's sake that relationship fails, and that BIL doesn't abandon his children (as he abandoned his wife) by just allowing her to take then full time into that shitshow- and letting that new man parent them because he would rather pursue his success and play grownup than be a stand up parent who does more than just pay bills.

Instead of worrying about your buddy BIL, take on those kids.  Those kids are getting their lives destroyed- the reality of which may not have hit them yet.   In the end, either your sister or BIL will win you and your husband.   It's not going to play out in any more mature way, these people won't let it.

It shocks me that she expects anyone to treat that relationship with respect-as shitty as her marriage was, she didn't exit it, or treat other people attached to it with even a modicum of respect.  Did she get married at 22?  She sounds like a case of arrested development.

As PP said, in the end you will have to choose your sister or your BIL.  The process of a contentious divorce such as this one (has your sister asked you for money for the lawyer term or did she just drain the joint savings account when she ran off?) will burn up one of these relationships in the process.   [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics