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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I'd be upset, too, if my child were saying she wanted me to stay and I felt pressured to leave her. Not much you can do now. But moving forward I would let her know you'll stay with her if she wants[/b] but that you'd like her to work toward  being comfortable without you there--and ask her if she would like to try out another doctor instead. She may need a better fit, along with your encouragement.[/quote]

I'm 19:27 and 18:42 and I agree completely with this. The situation probably happened so quickly OP didn't feel like there was a choice -- I've been there, done that, in a variety of situations -- but what I would emphasize in the future is that it's DD's choice either way who to have with her and that whatever it is I will respect that and help her make sure everyone involved in her medical care respects that.

IMO for a routine appointment, or most appointments where it's not a procedure with safety concerns or space limitations, the patient should be able to choose who if anyone to have with them and I don't think it's good for a doctor to be putting pressure on that decision any more than I think it appropriate for a parent to put pressure on the child to allow them to remain.

My DD has the right to make choices about her medical care and have those choices, and her consent or lack thereof to have something happen, respected. I'll always be her second (or first, depending on if she can do so for herself and will) advocate for her consent and her choices in life to be respected wherever possible, so I would likely apologize to her for contributing to a situation where it seemed like she was disrespectfully and inappropriately pressured into something and then find out how she would like to proceed. I'd offer to help her switch doctors to someone more willing to respect a patient's rights, to say something to the dr. on her behalf, help her think of something to say to the dr., do nothing if she says it's no big deal, or any other option along that range.

But I would definitely promise that, absent an emergency or other time-sensitive essential reason, in the future I would not let anyone pressure me to make a decision different from one she's comfortable with in a situation like this.[/quote]

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