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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP again.

She is my half-sister and lives with both her bio parents ( our mom and her dad). I am not trying to be snarky or put down the al - anon. I am open to going for them.

I think most of you are right. My parents are so in denial and will never cut her off. I found out last night that she is also using coke and has tried meth. My mom is mentally ill and refuses to be medicated. I'm sure she may have something. I think this is beyond the normal 20's partying. Being on drugs and drunk all day, everyday is an issue. Waking up and drinking and doing drugs is not normal.

I'm just worried. My fear is she will end up dead. I am in my mid 20's, not on drugs, drink socially, and I'm in school. Funny thing is I was always the one that had boundaries and been disciplined. Both of them favored her over my brother and I. He is a well respected attorney and I am on my way to becoming a neonatal nurse. [/quote]

It is difficult to see the family resources being drained by a person who is probably using them to her own detriment.  In the meantime, you and your brother have your noses to the grindstone and are doing everything right.....yet, everything that you've accomplished gets overshadowed somehow by your sister's reckless behavior.  All the time, attention, mental energy of your mom is directed at HER.  I'm sure that is beyond frustrating.

I think you should go to al anon and see if they can give you some advice as to how to approach your mom and step dad.  Maybe you can convince one or both of them to come to a meeting with you.  This problem wasn't created overnight and it won't be solved overnight.  And you will be limited by what you can really do for your sister because ultimately SHE is the one who needs to want to get a handle on her problems.

Hang in there and keep focusing on your own goals.  Don't let your worry for your sister sidetrack you - that won't help anyone.  I'm sorry.

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