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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks.  A couple of thoughts...

First, it seems like Aspergers == creepy....not reading cues, etc.

Second, I can see how/why people are viewing me differently.  Today, my goal is more to make people laugh and to feel good rather than to get them to like me/want to be with me.  [/quote]

No, Asperger's does not == creepy.  Some Aspies struggle with social cues, but they tend to refrain from approaching women at all.  Creepy men fail to understand, or deliberately disregard social cues in a relentless, pushy, overly physical, entitled, aggressive way.  Totally different from ASD.

The whole "it's not fair, I'm just socially awkward, women should give me the benefit of the doubt and devote their time and energy to teaching me how to behave" whine is a red flag for creepiness.  Genuine Aspies don't tend to make that argument.[/quote]

+1.  People with Aspergers/ASD don't have this attitude of entitlement to women's time and attention.  (Of course, one can have autism AND be creepy, but it's not automatic).  And when people with ASD violate boundaries or miss social cues, they are genuinely sorry and want to do better.  They typically don't get angry, call women ugly names, and demand endless explanations of why, why, why she won't date them.

And, of course, when you tell someone with ASD a very clear, unequivocal "NO.  Do not contact me again.", they almost always comprehend and comply.  It's the creeps who actually enjoy violating women's boundaries.[/quote]

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