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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an adoptive mom, I find it condescending and inappropriate.  Adoption is no different than many other style families and her hyper focus tells me its more an issue for her than the kids.  She may be grieving her infertility or have issues surrounding her adopting.  [b]For a family tree - we just add an extra branch to include our child's birth mom and her family, whom we are very close to.[/b]

When you make a choice to artificially twinning (as known in the adoption community) children by adopting so close in age, that is a risk you take.  This is her hang up, not the children's or the teachers.[/quote]
Ok.  That works for your family.  You see how this wouldn't work for all families, correct?[/quote]

Then find a way that works for your family.  My mom is adopted and we don't include her birth family on our tree - they are not considered part of our family, we don't know them.  But we most certainly have a family tree.  My grandmother is my grandmother whether we're genetically related or not.[/quote]
I just don't understand how you are not getting what I am saying.  My 7 year old does not want to discuss this with his teacher and friends.  He's still learning what it means himself.  He has not made a decision on who is 'part of his family' yet.  He doesn't know anything about genes.  I think this assignment should go away or always be modified to be a family or important people tree.[/quote]

So everyone else has to miss out on a meaningful and fun assignment to protect your kid's feelings?  Did you not think about how you would talk about issues like genealogy and family trees with your child before adopting?  If your going to adopt you have to be prepared and prepare your child to deal with the reality of the situation. [/quote]

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