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[quote] Well she's two. And she doesn't talk at all. And I don't think she knows that[b] I'm not her real mother[/b]. And yeah, we didn't plan on adopting at all - it was very disjointed and not as if DH and I decided "Let's grow our family through adoption!" So yeah, it hadn't occurred to me.  [/quote]

Adult adoptee here.
YES, you ARE her "real" mother! You are the only mother she's ever known. You are the one loving her, raising her, and putting band-aids on her knees. The bonds of love are stronger than any DNA. Don't let anyone tell you different.

And remember: you set the tone for everyone else. If you don't believe your her "real" mother, she won't believe it either, and your friends won't, your family, etc. Have some courage and step into your role.  Do it now, before you create an image problem for yourself and your child.[/quote]

Eh whatever. She is sometimes around her real mom. I don't really care about being all PC among my family. I know enough to not say it to people in the public.[/quote]

Wow what a mean attitude toward her.  you are conveying to her that you don't want to be her mother. Stop thinking about yourself and the public and start thinking about your DD. your dd needs you to be the real mother be you are all she has got day in and day out. [/quote]

Whoa, you have NO CLUE what the hell you're talking about. I am NOT "all she has got" at all. I'm not conveying that I don't want to be her mother by referring to her real mother as such. I convey that I want to be her mother by the fact that I feed her, dress her, talk to her, change her, play with her, take her to the doctor, to her therapy appointments, etc. Actions speak louder than words.[/quote]

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