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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My niece is a teen, and I have been having trouble dealing with the smart mouth, talking back, arguing.  The typical teen stuff. Only concern about her, and this is an aside, I don't think that she even knows how to be polite if she tried. [b]There are rude teens who can pull it together when they need to, but I don't think she is one[/b] .
I have been having serious memory and vision problems since starting menopause. 
I recently took my niece and my kid on a vacation and dealt with the incessant rudeness the whole time. She yelled at me in front of other people and so on. She wore me out. I will never have her along again since she is an embarrassment and a bad influence I my kids.  
After we got home, I thought I left something at the hotel that had great sentimental value to me. I looked all over the house and did not see it. She came over to my house with her mother to visit my mother. I was visibly upset since I had that item for 35 years, and replacements are expensive. She came into the kitchen and spotted the item right away. She repeatedly screamed out loud, "there it is!" Then started laughing at a crazy volume. Like really loud, then ran out of the house laughing even louder to her mother laughing really loud at me. As she was running out of the house I told her to stop, she just ignored me and continued on laughing so loud she felt a need to cover her mouth. I then raised my voice and told her to stop. [b]Her mother got mad at me[/b] for telling her to stop, so [b]they both hopped in the car and left right away. [/b]
When I told my husband what happened, [b]he in his typical nasty hateful way[/b], said that I did not thank her for finding the item for me. But there was no time to thank her, she started with the craziness immediately. 
She might not like me, but some respect would be nice. Since she is not my child, it is easy to keep her at bay in the future. I just don't get the behavior. Another relative of mine said that she never remembers her manners. But[b] my husband is acting like it was my fault. I don't trust his opinion since he is never on my side[/b] (this is not the topic of the thread). I'm curious to hear other more objective opinions. 
Please pardon typos. Vision is not great. [/quote]

Observation: You have a lot of conflict with the people around you. No one seems to be capable of doing anything right, according to you. But you are the common denominator in this.

However "rude" you think the teen was, you didn't exactly model exemplary behavior yourself.

And, from the way your husband seems to deal with you, I'm guessing this is not a new thing for you.[/quote]

True. So either OP is the problem or OP is used to surrounding herself with aholes.  She likely can't see it. Op, if you suspect this is the case, take a critical eye to your friends, coworker friends, etc. Its possible you're sending out signals to nasty people that it is acceptable to treat you poorly. [/quote]

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