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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reading between the lines a little, I'm wondering if she is simply telling you about her day to day life, which is what friends catching up do, and because of your discomfort with the difference between your life and her life, it is awkward to you when it's your turn to share.
With the relationship you described (phone calls regularly) it may be simply that "what did you do this weekend" is naturally going to include descriptions of things out of your reach that are her day to day reality.
With all that being said, if it is uncomfortable and awkward for you, then yes, you need to back away from this friendship. But maybe a fair look at what your part in this is would be helpful in your own life, too.
FWIW I am the "poor" person in a friendship like this, but don't have similar feelings of awkwardness when sharing about camping after listening to what her yacht captain wore to dinner, but that's just me and my friend is lovely 
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I agree.  I'm the "rich" friend in a relationship and with one friend I feel like I have to hide details about my life.  I feel like I can't share about a vacation or I have to be embarrassed when she notices my new shoes or handbag.  It's a little strange.  [/quote]

You don't have to hide the details of your life.

I'm not the rich friend, but the poor one. Well, we're not really poor since we both make six figures, but we're not multiple vacation home and yacht wealthy. We have to budget and save.

The key is not hiding your own info, but not belittling (inadvertently or not)  the poorer person's required lifestyle. Like the PP who's wealthy friend flew in private planes and wondered aloud how anyone could possibly tolerate flying commercial. We'd love to hear about your beautiful tropical vacation. Just don't add that you can't imaging having to go to a horrible place like Virginia Beach when your friend just went to Virginia Beach.  :?

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Pp here.  I never say things like that.  Wow.  I seriously have a friend who has an issue with me telling her the truth about my life.  If she asks where I went on vacation and I say X, the look on her face is priceless.  To not offend or upset her I would have to lie.

I find it hard to believe the OPs friend really commented like that on commercial.  If so, the OP should have told her her comment is rude.  No need to dump the friend or be offended - simply tell her when she's offending you.  Say, "that's not a nice thing to say.  Not everyone is as fortunate with finances as you are."

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