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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I agree with other posters that you're a caring big brother. And I agree that your sister endured some very significant trauma. Is her mental health stable? If she met her child, who is now a grown woman, could she cope with the situation? Does she have other kids now or is this child her only child?

I ask this because I wonder if you could help your sister take some steps to help her child locate her, if that's what the adoptee desires. Has your sister contacted the adoption agency in writing, providing current info if the adoptee is searching for her? Your sister could register with DNA sites like 23&me (or whatever it's called) to help the child if she's searching.

I personally can't imagine a nicer gift for the adoptee than to find out she was never forgotten. Even if she has a completely fantastic relationship with her parents, all this gifts would probably mean a great deal. And, if your sister is stable & capable of respecting boundaries, then finding the child she put up for adoption might be the gift of a lifetime. Just a thought, and no disrespect to the child's parents (adoptive). [/quote]

Hi there, I missed this one. The Adoption agency is the state of Virginia. They stopped working with us once the adoptee daughter turned 18, citing privacy reasons.  This was her only child, [/quote]

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