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 If you cannot afford it, you can probably hire an old grandma with bad English at a low rate and set up a camera feed you can monitor from home. The baby will be at home, in the same environment. 
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Don't do this.

-legal nanny employer[/quote]

Yeah, for so, SO many reasons, don't do this. There is so much guilt involved in parenting, and so many moms in particular are very invested in convincing themselves that what they did for their child was the "right" thing to do. Instead of listening to the first PP, who obviously has done it only one way and thus thinks there is only one good way (even at the expense of a properly paid legal caretaker!), please take the advice of a BTDT mom who has, over the course of raising 3 kids, used large corporate daycare, small in-home daycare, a nanny share, a live-out nanny for just our family, and now we have an au pair.  I can PROMISE you that every single one of those environments can be wonderful for your child, and every single one of them can be terrible. It completely depends on the situation.  You will know if you have picked a good place, even if dropping the baby off is hard.

FWIW, the very best childcare situation we had was our first nanny, who was with us for a year until she got married and moved to a new city. We still keep in touch with her.  Unfortunately, the very WORST childcare situation we had was our second nanny. When there's just one adult and your kids aren't old enough to tell you what's going on, accountability can be a challenge, and a webcam isn't useful unless you expect your child to spend all day in one spot and you have all day to sit and watch the camera.  [/quote]

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