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[b]When I get home- I am completely in family mode. I do dinner, baths, homework, bedtime, and am completely "present" with my kids. 
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- If you have four younger children and you leave the office at 6:00 p.m. no ifs or buts, just how do you really have time to make the dinner during the week for family??  Or is it that you have a Nanny or DH who prepares the dinner and you put it on the table, but even then you are all not eating till close to 7:00 p.m .

I get home by 6:30 (quick train ride) Dinner is on the table when I get home and kids have often started eating.  DH gets home earlier than me and either he or nanny makes dinner, often kid type food and so I might eat after everyone goes to bed.  or we get pizza or carry out- easy.

- What exactly does DH do during the week to help you out as "super achiever" - laundry, nightly dishes, daily lunches, family laundry etc.?

DH gets off at 4:30, so he gets home earlier than me and had lots of family time.  He prepares lunches.  We throw all dishes (including pots) in dishwasher.  Nanny does kid laundry.  I do all other laundry at night or on weekends (fold during toddlers naptimes.) Like I said, I run all errands one night per week.

- Something just seems out-of-wack with this scenario in that young children, even with a great Nannie, do not wait till close to 7:00 p.m. to start dinner, homework, baths?

I throw 3 of the kids in the tub together from 7-8pm basically.  maybe 2 or 3 baths per week.  not daily- they are not that dirty.  oldest child takes shower.
my 2 kids do homework when they get home from school, under direction of nanny, so I just take a half hour to review and help them correct mistakes.  I'm trying to make them be as self sufficient as possible.  Bedtime routine for toddlers at 8pm-8:30- they share a room.  Bedtime routine for older kids from 8:30-9pm- they share a room.  DH is actively involved in all this.  ( I really sympathize with single parents, so hard to do it alone.  It fully consumes both my DH and I.)

My salary doubled in my new upper management job that only requires me to put in an extra 5-10 hours per week.  I now can fully fund 4 kids' private college tuitions if it happens. Our options as a family have opened up and I feel it would be selfish of me to go back.
Stress should equal more money.  It's not worth it if the money isn't there.

OP - It might help you if you indicated with one 15 month old child, just how much your DH helps out or if you have shared with him your angst and had a conversation about how things at present might be shared?  The idea to get a physical checkup and mental health screen is right on?  Then to look at your profession and see what options might be there for reducing work load for a while.[/quote]

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