Reply to Fearful avoidant/dismissive avoidant attachment in relationships

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Fearful avoidant/dismissive avoidant attachment in relationships"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My DH was avoidant and distant our first year together. He is in the military and has PTSD as well as he had a relationship previously that involved a lot of games on her end and he just shut himself off. I feel like I spent that whole year slowly chipping away at this hard shell he'd built. Then one day after him being distant and cold I got a string of texts while I was at work. The PTSD had come on full force and he was upset and didn't know who to call. I left work and went to his house. He was a mess. We got him calmed down and cleaned up. He spent the next 4-5 days glued to me. Ever since that day he has been far more open with me because he finally realized I was going to be a constant and reliable thing for him.

A few months after that I brought up the way that he had acted over that first year and he said a lot of that would never happen again. I deserved better, he would do better. He truly has ever since. There's still times I have to fight him to get stuff out, but overall, he is open, affectionate, and has no problem discussing future things. He even gets upset when I don't get excited about the future conversations (stuff like he wants to move us to the coast, discussing children, future vacations, etc).

Some people have weird, avoidant personalities, and some people have had things happen to them that have made them that way. How a relationship works and how you interact is on both of you.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics