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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So it sounds like on one hand you want things to be light and fun but on the other hand you want things feel closer.
I would say that you don't know yet whether this guy just doesnt need the same level of communication as you in general, or if he keeping you at a distance. Time will tell. You didn't say how long you've been dating...if it's been 1-3 months I would wait it out, and just go ahead send him a text when you want to communicate with him. [/quote]

OP here. This is exactly it.  I dont know if this is just his style of communication or if he wants to purposefully keep things distant and unconnected. Sometimes i feel like he can be very communicative over texts but only to "lock the deal" so to speak. He's the type of guy i adamantly avoided in my 20s.

We have been in communication since January--but only started seeing each other more regularly since June. We met online.[/quote]

So then I would definitely say to give it a bit more time before you say anything. See if things naturally evolve as you get to know each other better. And if you still feel this way after you've had a few more good dates, then I think it's fine to bring it up (post again at that time and we'll help you with that ?).
Also, I think it's fine if you initiate a text when you would like to touch base. If he can't handle that then your expectations should drop to: occasional F buddy.[/quote]

^^ question mark was supposed to be smiley face :)[/quote]

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