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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]By all means seek out the counsel of the best attorney you can find. Don't worry about cost, roll attorney's fees into your settlement but don't let the custody stress you out too much any man who wants to leave you after 17 years and 2 small children under 3 more than likely isn't interested in 50/50 custody. He wants freedom and fun most likely with someone new and that someone new more than likely doesn't want your toddlers to mess up the fun. Take care of yourself and look out for yourself. Best of luck to you. [/quote]

Terrible advice. Speaking as an attorney, men seek full and half custody not because they want custody but to use it as a bargaining chip to blackmail the wife into a lower financial settlement than she would have otherwise gotten. Far too many women sit around depressed while their husbands are planning divorces.  Then when divorce rolls around, these women are caught completely unawares and trying to play catch-up against a well-prepared husband.  OP, you have some dark days ahead if you keep sitting around feeling sorry for yourself or trying to save a marriage to a man who is done with you. You are better off than most women in that you know your husband wants a divorce. You are probably wondering why he has not filed yet and may be seeing this as a sign of hope. In all likelihood, nothing is further from the truth. He is very likely taking this time before filing to get all his ducks in a row and prepare to overwhelm you in a legal battle. Lawyer up now. You do not have to tell him that you are going to see a lawyer. This way, if he really is at all interested in reconciling, that can still be an option. But you can hold out hope for the best and continue to fight for your marriage, while planning for the worst. You have children and they are young. Put on your big girl panties now.[/quote]

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