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[quote=Anonymous]OP, do you think there's anything in this for YOU?  Do you feel your mother has something to offer that you want? Or do you just feel obligated because you are a nice person and you want to be a better person than your crappy mother?

I would be really, really leery of her desire to come back into your life at her advanced age. At minimum, it's about her and her desire to make amends and feel better. At worst, it's about her realizing that she has nobody to take care of her in her old age and wanting to put that burden on you.  She's not your responsibility.  She did not do the hard work in the past that would mean she deserves to be cared for and looked after now.  She was shitty, and she should now reap her shitty harvest.

If she gets a taste of being able to manipulate you, then she will probably keep doing it and in increased doses.  If you decide to see her, feel free to keep it to one dinner or one afternoon outing.  If you decide not to see her, let her know that she should get a refund on her ticket and coordinate with you so that the timing works for you and your family.  Good luck, OP.  I remember your other post, and I relate to having bad, abandoning parents.

Let us know what happens, will you?[/quote]

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