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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm going on a limb here and presuming you come from a Muslim-majority country.  If I am right (and I may be completely wrong), then you know that sometimes there is a wide rift between what the religion prescribes and what the culture permits. Islam places great importance on property rights and respecting what is and isn't yours. There is nothing in Islamic law that would allow a brother usurp a sister's inheritance, nothing whatsoever. If he did that, he has committed a great sin. It may be worth it to tell him he's a bad Muslim, and by the book, you will be completely right.

Secondly, get it out of your head that this isn't your business. It is. It is your circus and your monkeys.  If someone has wronged your mother, it is perfectly legitimate to be outraged with them and do what you can to punish them and rectify the wrongs.

Thirdly, you don't live in that country any more, and there can be no consequences if you tell your uncle to his face he's a POS and you have no respect for him and want nothing to do with him or his family. I mean, you're married already, what could possibly happen? It's not going to jeopardize your property, your marital prospects or your standing in the community, so why are you holding back? believe me, there is great satisfaction in calling a scoundrel a scoundrel. Why are you suppressing this? You should be looking for ways to make your feelings as clear as possible, not to hide them![/quote]

Close.  We are from a Muslim country but not Muslims ourselves.  Hence the safety issues and my mother's inability to sell her own freaking land, because we are a minority from a dangerous area of an already dangerous country.  My uncle has milked this fact for decades now, as one of his excuses for not selling the property.

There are so, so many things I want to say to my uncle.  I want to tell him what a POS garbage and failure he is, how he isn't a "man" by any standard of his own culture, because a real man would have protected his baby sister and noted that she was suffering from mental illness, or at the very least made sure that she was marrying someone decent.  Instead, he pressured her to marry a near stranger who didn't understand and couldn't handle the mess he was getting into, just so that he could have his parents' house to himself.  So many people have suffered because of his selfishness.  He was treated like a golden child and spoiled rotten, and still lives off money left by his parents, who died decades ago, and his siblings still let him do whatever he wants.

How he gets away with it I don't know.  He is charming and feigns concern for my mother and aunt.  Oh his poor baby sisters living without a man so far away, however do they take care of themselves?  He was happy when I got married because, finally, we'd have a man around!

[b]I want to tell him to go F&^% himself so, so badly[/b].  I am just getting more aggravated.[/quote]

It sounds like cutting all contact with him is the right thing to do, OP.  This isn't about being "American" vs being from your home culture.  This is about associating with those who treat you with respect, and choosing not to associate with those who are toxic and disrespectful.  There is no reason you should welcome ill into your home.  Respect yourself, and your family by drawing the line here and now.[/quote]

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