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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've been on this Forum for maybe 5 years.  Can't count the number of moms who come on here and said that the kids in XYZ [PEP; social skills group; learning center; school; classroom; therapist's office; whatever] are too special needs, too impaired, much more special needs than my child and my child simply is too high functioning for that environment.  Heck, I do it myself, and my child is definitely very special needs.

OP, until you've tried the class, you really can't write off the other kids.  A stim, or a hand flap, or a physical/motoric disability or an intellectual disability or a genetic disorder does not equate to poor social skills.  In fact, google Williams Syndrome some time.  Those kids have fabulous social skills. It's known as Cocktail Party Syndrome.

And guess what?  Three or four other moms have written YOUR KID off as way too low functioning for their kid socialize/learn/interact/hang out with.  So just stop with this crap.[/quote]

How have I written off the class?  He DID the group.  He completed it.  He went every single day.  We spent a fair amount of money on it.  It was not a good experience.  The goals that they asked us to come up with were not met -- by the group leader's own admission!  I have nothing against the group, against the kids, whatever.  It just simply wasn't a good fit for my kid.  It was not the social skills experience that we were looking for.  The social skills that this group worked on were ones that my son does OK with.  Obviously practice at any social skills is great, but if I'm spending a fair amount of money looking for a specific goal, then I think it's OK for me to say 'hey, this group wasn't what we were looking for.'  So I came here trying to find leads on other groups, as I am not familiar with this area and thought people would know more about what groups are out there than I did.  I got some great suggestions, so thanks to those people.

Where on earth did I say that a stim or hand flap or physical/motoric disability or intellectual disability equates to poor social skills?  You are adding value judgments to my search for social groups that I never expressed, and don't feel.

Of course there are moms and kids who haven't enjoyed playing with my kid.  Of course there are kids whose social skills are way above and beyond his and he functions at a majorly lower level.  That's the reality. That's why we are trying to improve this whole area with him.  I totally understand why some kids haven't wanted to come back for multiple play dates.   There are level of skill to everything.  Saying that my child was on a different social skill level than the kids in his last group is a fact -- not a value statement.  That doesn't make him a "better" kid, or a more valuable kid -- it just means his skills are different.  Just as the skills of the kids in his preschool were different.

If your child is in a karate class and has earned his blue belt, a class that only focused on what it takes to earn a white belt wouldn't be the best fit, right?  
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