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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, you can break up for whatever reason you want. If this is a biggie for you, then make clear it's a dealbreaker. Explain your worries.  Offer some solutions.

One partial solution is that he not be the driver when you're in the car.  Don't give him any wiggle room over this, explain why it's the case. He can either accept it or break up over it.

But if you're en-route to marriage and possibly kids, then you have another very important issue to confront.

Again, talk talk talk.

I had a dealbreaker issue with my boyfriend (who became my fiancé and now my husband of 12 years). It's not one he agreed with, and I knew my mission wasn't to change his mind or alter his values.  And I also said that I was willing to engage in spirited debate about it, I might even be able to intellectually and abstractly cede some points, but it would never change my mind about the real life experience of it.  I did have the mission to explain my POV, articulate that it was a dealbreaker issue for me, and then if confronted with someone who wasn't sensitive to it, I'd probably be examining whether I needed to break up with him.

Again, this wasn't a threat. It was just the honest truth.

You might go this route and see what becomes of it. Again, you might have to give up convincing him of your moral high ground.  But you can convince him of your strong feelings on the matter and the possible consequences for your relationship.

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