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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] It is different.  A shelf in a fridge is an accommodation. A six foot tree in a living room with decorations and lights is a statement in some way about the owners of the home.  There is no way around that even if different folks have different  ideas as to what statement it makes.  My guess is this situation was not contemplated by OP and DH. SD is 18, OP and DH have been involved 10 years.  We don't why SD moved in or how long she will stay, we don't know the ages of OPs kids.  For many Jews -- obviously not all -- part of their identiy is not signalling they may be something else; not assimilating beyond a certain point in a dominant Christian society.  I am not religous - I am a bit spiritual -- but I am definitely Jewish culturally and in my identity  and the thought of having a tree in the house when my kids 
were small was something I would not do (I may be able to contemplate a small one now that my kids are older for the reasons others above note).  There are many more important ways OP can make SD comfortable and feel loved 
without a tree.  This gets back to the other kids' ages and whatever deal OP and DH struck in their marriage. They can change the deal, of course, for SD's benefit, but know that the tree could have other family consequences. Do OP's kids acknowledge Christmas at home now at all or not? Gifts? If kids are older and OP wants to expose them more to Christmas and show respect for SD, she can take the family to mass on Christmas. Or the family can do volunteer work on Christmas for children or the elderly.   There are many better ways to show an embracing of the Christmas spirit for the whole family than cutting down a tree this first year with SD.             [/quote]

Does anyone else find it ironic that this poster seems to think that step daughter taking the family with her to Mass is less religious than step daughter being allowed to have a secular Christmas tree in her own home?[/quote]

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