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[quote=Anonymous]Can I honestly ask what you would do if your kids no longer "lived up to expectations"? You sound totally rational so I would hope that you would be able to still be loving and a good parent to a kid that has struggles that perhaps you don't (not everyone is an academic all star, or if something happens to them and they can no longer be on the same trajectory they are on now). Would your in laws be cold, dismissive, abusive etc? I'd be damn sure I wouldn't put up with that if I were you.

Since that isn't the case now you could either continue to not open emails and ignore- as DH says or you could maybe try a different/ non-combative tactic, since people like your inlaws sound like they are spoiling for a fight. You could come at them from a place that says, its hard being a parent you appreciate how much they care, but that constant talk about it is akin to hurting your feelings or something like that. Humble yourself (even if its fake)- sure they might feel like they "won" or that you are weak or whatever but if they feel like they are actively hurting you they might at least ease up a bit, and who cares what the reason is? Figure a totally new approach might work, it might just make them think you are crazy or whatever but you'd be no worse off.[/quote]

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