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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stay calm. Comfort him calmly, without getting into the drama yourself. Don't punish or humiliate a kid for having feelings - that's just mean! [/quote]

+1.  And for those saying tell him to suck it up, a five year old isn't going to understand what that even means.  He's just going to register a lack of compassion.  Doesn't actually solve anything because it's not teaching him how to deal with emotions more effectively.[/quote]

Not all emotions are equal. Sometimes you need to teach kids to turn it off. If not, you're just raising a cry baby. It's  alright to cry but some kids need to be taught when it's isn't. It's also alright to toughen up.[/quote]

I totally agree!  [/quote]

I don't disagree but the question seems to be how to help a little one know when it is "ok" to cry and when it is not. Clearly crying all of the time isn't going to work - but[b] what techniques are  going to work with the super sensitive kid without screwing them up?[/b][/quote]

Teach them to to name their feelings as they happen and then use words to communicate with you.

"I'm really mad.  I wanted to watch another show."

"I'm worried about camp.  I don't know what to do about the swim test."

"I'm upset that he got more X than I did.  It makes me mad."

"My toe hurts a lot.  Can you help make it feel better?"  (As opposed to whining and crying over every other tiny bump and scratch in the hope that you will notice and come help.)

"I'm tired of sharing this with [sibling].  I want to play with it myself for awhile."

"I'm bored.  I want someone to play with me."

"I need a break from [sibling].  I want some space."

"I want to play a game with you.  Can we play Trouble?"  (As opposed to flipping out about something small in order to get your attention.)
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