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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of the PPs with similar issue.  Our son will start to cry/go into emotional lock-down because we want him to eat his peas.  Or because he can't have the ipad. Or because I tell him his non-bleeding toe doesn't need a Band-Aid. Or because "we're talking about him".  Or....or...  And sometimes it's a real issue, and I'm very conscious about wanting to raise a functional human being who doesn't act this way and not wanting to be a terrible parent who doesn't teach their child to better deal with their emotions.  At some point I do wonder if it's the way he's realized he can best get attention about something, and what does that say about how we've parented him to this point?  Or am I looking too deeply into it and is it just a phase (I'm interested to see this seems so common at this age).

I come from a bottle-it-up waspy family, and I don't want that either.  It's horrible too on so many levels.

I did discover this book about anxiety, but we need to get into it more.  http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1591473144?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_search_detailpage[/quote]

Deal with the immediate emotion ("I am sorry it makes you so sad but there will be no more ipad today") and then leave the room or ask him to leave the room.  Give it NO attention beyond the initial reassurance that he has been heard and responded to).  Like tantrums when the child is younger, the crying jags can never get the kid what he wants -- especially attention.

I HATED this phase.  Luckily DS grew out of it very quickly.  [/quote]

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