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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am really struggling with how much of priority to place on my tweens doing/ learning chores.  We have never been good about  making the kids do dishes, laundry etc during the year because they have homework and musical instruments to practice.   my attititude has been that they will learn how to take care of a house when they have one, but I do see a lot of chore charts etc when we visit other families.   really struggling here as I don't care about doing the dishes myself (although I don't particularly like it either) , but don't want to raise kids who can't do any household work.      [/quote]

My children has always participated in this household to the extent that they have been able. It's part of being a family. They are 4 and 6yo and crave competence, which is totally normal developmentally. There've been a few broken dishes, sure. But, they know to put their dirty clothes next to the washing machine, and love turning on the dishwasher (Press n- n- normal then the triangle).

I'm a single mom. I can't be in a situation where I'm responsible for all household tasks solo AND clean up after them. If they spill, they know where the bleach wipes are and they wipe up the mess they've made. They set the table, using a step stool to grab dishes from the kitchen cabinet. I taught the elder to shower after camp each day, and not to depend on me to facilitate that. It's our routine.

This is what works for us. There's no universal standard that you should feel any pressure to maintain. However, like other posters, I think they your children should know how to do all of these things before they head off to college. I wouldn't wait for them to learn how to manage basic household tasks once they're homeowners. I think they'd be really anxious and feel unprepared and overwhelmed.[/quote]

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