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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a single mom who makes around $50K plus appr. $4000/yr in child support (if my ex actually pays up which he often does not).  I had my DD at age 30 but now that I am 40, I could not imagine having a baby now.  I guess you haven't had 10 yrs of being a single mother already so maybe you aren't as tired as I am.  It is exhausting doing every single little thing yourself.  I would make sure you are in awesome health and have energy already.  Also, I would do all kinds of testing because you've already stated you couldn't deal with/afford a special needs child on your own.  Take advantage of modern medicine and have all of the tests done you can.  There is not guarantee you won't still have a special needs child but ...  It sounds like you have a lot on your plate now.  Can you freeze your eggs to deal with the time pressure?[/quote]

Yes, if I do decide to leave the marriage I will freeze my eggs. I would still like to believe I could meet someone else in the next couple of years, but I don't expect it. I would want to have those eggs on ice either way. [/quote]

And if you don't decide to leave, you are going to have the baby now?

Don't let your desire to have a baby be what keeps you married to a man with anger issues. I have a child with a man with anger issues and I swear to you it only gets worse (and it doesn't get better after the sleep-deprived newborn stage).

Freeze your eggs regardless. Spend six months working on your issues separately, then make a decision about the marriage. THEN make a decision about a baby.[/quote]

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