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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have always been pro bio parent.
I once listened to a radio broadcast about women who gave their kids up for adoption. They interviewed them later in life around age 50 or so. To make a long story short, when I got to work, I could barely get out of the car since I was crying so loudly. It was heart breaking to hear how so many had this sense of loss. They often said that they hoped that their child would simply appear around a corner or behind a door. Almost all said they would never have given the child up i they knew how painful it would have been. 
If I were an adoptive parent I would feel so much guilt if I knew that the bio parents were suffering like this. 
The system is abusive and it has to stop. The research showing that in the  end, most kids are better off with their bio parents. 
I also claim that the research on post abortion stress is skewed to support that practice. We hear what we want and we believe what we want. [/quote]

These women were part of a system that used to be very different than it is now.  Today there are many agencies that are non-profit, that provide intensive counseling to all parties, that advocate open adoption, that strive to ensure that all parties are aware of their choices and the meaning of their decision.  It is far different than the system of 30 years ago or more that advocated closed adoption and told women they would "forget about it."

If you are basing your entire opinion on a single radio show, and you've done no other research, spoke to no one in the adoption triad, then you are judging people on the basis of nothing and making an uninformed opinion.[/quote]

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