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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have always been pro bio parent.
I once listened to a radio broadcast about women who gave their kids up for adoption. They interviewed them later in life around age 50 or so. To make a long story short, when I got to work, I could barely get out of the car since I was crying so loudly. It was heart breaking to hear how so many had this sense of loss. They often said that they hoped that their child would simply appear around a corner or behind a door. Almost all said they would never have given the child up i they knew how painful it would have been. 
If I were an adoptive parent I would feel so much guilt if I knew that the bio parents were suffering like this. 
The system is abusive and it has to stop. The research showing that in the  end, most kids are better off with their bio parents. 
I also claim that the research on post abortion stress is skewed to support that practice. We hear what we want and we believe what we want. [/quote]

So what exactly are you proposing?  That these women should have been forced to keep the child so they didn't feel sad later in life.  Or maybe that someone else love and raise the child, but just until the bio parent is ready to be a parent, which may or may not ever happen.

As for the adoptive parents feeling guilt. You are not talking about stolen children.   Why should anyone feel guilty about taking a child in and giving them a loving home? 
And please share your research that most kids are better off with their bio parents.

Bio parents have many rights which they exercise.  They exercised their right to have sex, then their right to carry the child to term, and then their right to give the child up for adoption.  These are all decisions which have consequences.  Consequences for which they are accountable.  I am sure they feel sad and guilty as adults but I am not sure why you think that is the problem of the adoptive parent.  
These sad women should feel heartened by the fact that they made the best decision they knew how in the moment and that their child is hopefully out there somewhere happy and healthy.

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