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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think this is messy and it's harder to do what you propose than it is to say it. The fact that your MIL is only working 15 hrs/wk means they aren't desperate yet, so I would phrase things in such a way that points to a willingness to make sure they at least have food if working full time isn't enough to cover that after downsizing. [/quote]

OP here - I truly suspect that my MIL would rather go on welfare or panhandle than put in a full, honest day's work.  She is a thoroughly indolent person who believes she is above petty things like work ethic.  She has worked full time literally only 3-5 years of her life (she is 66 years old).  My FIL is a hard working man and I believe that much of his unwise spending is motivated by his wife's poor counsel and greed for material things.  I know I sound judgmental, but I dare any hard working person not to feel outraged by such a person as shameless as my MIL.  Three out of four of her children are just like her.  I have this terrible fear that if we help my in laws, then after working my FIL into disability, she will attach herself to us for decades to come.  I did not sign up for a life of carrying this lazy woman like a millstone around my neck.  Truly, if it was just my FIL, I might go as far as moving him in because the man will never take any more than he can earn himself.

At the same time, I feel for DH.  I see the moral arguments that people are making regarding compassion and kindness, but this is not a matter of a one-time hand out.  My children are also involved here.  I refuse to mortgage their future for my in laws, but my in laws have set up their life in such a way that they are destitute and FIL's medical bills are going to devastate them.  I am so upset.

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