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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here - I agree with with the pps that part of me really wants it. But part of me is scared I'll be miserable and be one of the parents that resents the day to day. I'm not someone that generally looks to add work to my life (eg crafts when you can buy something, gardening for the sake of fun when it's actually cheaper to go to farmers market).  I guess kids seem like the ultimate hobby - creating lots of work for yourself for the joy of it - and I'm so nervous I won't get that joy out of it as it sounds like some don't. And I don't know how to figure that out before hand.

Sorry for the navel gazing but what you've said far has been very helpful![/quote]

You can outsource a lot of stuff with kids as well and otherwise choose to do it it he most convenient way. Not all mothers breastfeed, make their own solids and do crafts all they long. Don't let ridiculous too much time on my hands parenthood model prevent you from having kids at all.[/quote]

This.  You can be a great parent even if you never go near Pinterest.  In my case, I felt okay with parenting because DH and I agreed that he would be an equal co-parent.  I didn't BF, and from day one, he did feeding from 8pm to 2 am, while I got 2 am to 8 am.  When my maternity leave was over, he took 6 weeks off with both DC.   As the kids have gotten older, we play different roles and have different responsibilities based on our strengths and work demands at any given time.  We are also both on the same page as parents,both attend important kid events, and make parenting decisions together. In the end, I know I am in it with an equal partner.  And I feel really good about my choices.  But, if I was OP and had a husband who travelled a lot?  I think I would be unhappy and overwhelmed.  Since DH wants kids, can he change his job so that he can be more available and more involved?  There is no law saying mom has to scale back at work or SAH while dad keeps up the same pace post baby.  [/quote]

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