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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do they have a custody agreement?  It sounds like they don't.  They need one.  That would spell out how much time he gets and how it is spent. [/quote]

They do have a custody agreement.  And they have a child support agreement.  All through the courts.  She expressed that she wants him to spend more time with the child, which is understandable.  Just to me, it makes sense for the child to stay with us more often, not for him to go spend the time with her and the child.  [/quote]

It is HIS child. He has to make sure the child is comfortable before adding you into the mix. As others have said you are not married. You need to get your support etc.. on paper. This guy is about this other kid (and maybe your kid). Far only I don't see a problem with him putting bis kids bead of your insecurity.[/quote]

Wow.  I am the one that said that I'm still friends with my ex and we vacation together but it didn't come about by me holding my child ransom.  He apparently wants to spend time with his child.  The mother is the one on insisting that she be there too.  OP is not being unreasonable.  You need to forgive whoever wronged you and move on.[/quote]
Well that's P/A. Any child shrink will tell you he needs to spend time with that child first. That child knows mom. She needs to be there initially. She can then back off. He continuous one on one until child is comfortable and THEN he adds the next baby mama to the mix. But why put the kid first when current gf to the mix.
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What are you talking about? He and his ex have a child and he has a child with the OP. Why do you think he should pretend to still be a family with the ex, when he has a new family? Yes, he should include his child with his ex in his new set up, but why the mother?

OP, have you asked him to take your child on these family outings? If the ex succeeds and they get back together, she will be step mother to your child. You and your child do not go away and neither does she and her child. How old are the children? You probably need to get your child support order in place and be ready to move on.[/quote]

Nobody said pretend to be a family. I said put that kid first. You clearly are not trained. He needs to establish his relationship with that kid before adding anybody. Kid currently knows only mom. This is really not hard math. I go back to my primary premise. Op you best go get your support on paper. This is some Jerry Spinger crap. Fightin' over a dang sperm donor. [/quote]

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