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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two perspectives:

My parents were 19 years apart - mom 24, dad 43 when they married.   My mom was looking for a father figure and my dad was quite young in looks and in energy/temperment for his age.  They had kids right away.  I'm the youngest; they had me when my dad was 48.    Your fiancee is much younger and hasn't even started a career.  What if she wants kids in 8-10 years.  She will still be very young.  Do you want an infant when you're 50?  Do you want to be coaching Little League at 60?

What worked for my parents is that my dad basically acted younger and my mom acted older.  She has always acted and seemed much older than her chronological age, so she didnt' mind hanging out with all my dad's family and friends.  She even got Senior Citizens discounts when she was still in her early 50's because he did.  She aged a lot mentally.  He died at 83.  She's now only 72 but she is in a nursing home.  We kept him very, very young until he hit a wall with health.  So, it was really good for him, not so good for her, but it worked because she didn't mind being "older" all those years.

My oldest brother married a woman half his age - he was 44, she was 22.  She is an immigrant from a very poor country and he is her Prince Charming, her Knight.  They are now married 5 years and she doesn't mind at all being subservient.  She's never had a job; she is his homemaker.  He always dated women way younger than him because he needs to be in control and can't be with a woman who is truly an equal partner.  So this works out for them.  But as she gets older, she is starting to want more freedom and more autonomy, and I'm not sure it's going to work out.  Also, when they first married, he wanted to wait a few years for kids so they could travel and have fun.  Now she desperately wants kids and I think he's feeling too old.  They're happy right now, but I'm not sure for how much longer.  I really like her and hope she can find happiness with him as she grows older, but I'm not sure either of them will be comfortable together as she grows more confidence and independence with age.[/quote]

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