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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Fixes things (there is a lot to fix), takes some classes related to his field (I totally approve and support this), job hunts. It's not like he's sitting on his butt. [/quote]

I think you sound like a great partner. I also think that he could probably fit in the dishes if he knew it was important to you. You can ask, minus the screaming at him :)[/quote]

+1 Good advice here. OP, I feel you. I really do. When DH was unemployed for a year (well, there were a few hours of work here & there), I became really resentful of our financial limitations (every purchase he made that wasn't a joint decision was a point of contention)  + all the housework I still had to do + our kid was still in daycare. I made many gentle, loving pleas for him to just take some temp work with an agency - or, fully embrace his role as a SAHD for the next six months. He didn't love the gentle hints, and eventually I did snap - if his income wasn't breaking even with daycare costs within two months, I was dis-enrolling our daughter. He really didn't like that, but the math was indisputable. We couldn't keep the status quo up, which is true regardless of whether we felt warm & fuzzy or upset & angry about the situation we were in. I invited him to take a look at the budget and find an alternative to what i was suggesting. He took a look, then got two half-time jobs. [/quote]

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