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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]i am hoping 3 nights will appease him.....[/quote]

OP, you need to stop thinking about it like this. Your goal is renewed connection and celebrating your marriage - not appeasement.

I agree with the people who say you should go for the full week. Be open about your worries, but also be specific. When you say that it's a lot for your in-laws to handle, what does that mean? What aspects of this week do you worry they will find overwhelming? When you say that you will worry the whole time, what will those worries pertain to?

Example: you're worried that your in-laws will have a hard time dealing with dinner for 3 children at night and dealing with things like homework, baths and other "evening routine" stuff. One potential solution to that would be to leave them gift cards for take out/pizza or suggest easy favorite things that your kids like. It is not complicated or overwhelming to make 3 (or 5) sandwiches and cut up some fruit. If you are concerned that your kids need more elaborate meals, think about what those are and plan for them WITH your in-laws. You have 3 kids, so I'm sure you already do stuff like this on your own to an extent.

Example: you're worried about nebulous things like "how they are doing." Set up a time to talk every day that you will be gone, on Skype or the phone. Ask that your in-laws send pictures of what the kids are up to. Note: very important that you not allow these communications to bleed into the vacation itself.

You can do this. It will be a good experience for everyone. That your husband wants this and your in-laws are gung-ho about taking up the childcare are both very, very good things.[/quote]

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