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[b]Frankly, I think people a oddballs when they won't leave their kids with a sitter to hang out from time to time. It's a red flag to me that said person doesn't have much else going on in their lives and we probably won't have much in common.[/b]
 You sound like a person who does not have much empathy for others, or much understanding that others may have different, and less fortunate circumstances than you. I have an hour and 15 minute commute because that was the job I could get after I was laid off from my prior company in downsizing three years ago. My kid's school starts at 8. I don't get home until 7pm. I see him for an hour and a half on most weekdays. I'm not going to miss that time more than very occasionally to get drinks or dinner with friends.

It is going to be hard for you to get empathy and understanding when you bitterly post (or agree with the following):

to me, it seems like the ones who get sitters are putting their own social lives ahead of being parents. I put my kids first so yes.....Even at social events with parents and kids, the parents seem to ignore the kids and just talk to each other and I'm the lone mom who actually is more concerned with supervising kids than socializing.[b]

You are in the minority and are projecting your feelings of guilt because of your unique situation. Parents who nurture friendships oustide of their children's lives are not putting their social lives ahead of raising their children. That's dramatic and intentionally combative and your insecurity over your situation is pitifully transparent. [/quote]

Um, the post you are quoting is not mine, so I don't know what you are going off about.  I don't feel guilty - my commute and the amount of time I can spend with my kid is not the ideal situation but if he didn't have food to eat and a house to live it, he would be worse off, so it is the best decision available for us.  Your post was very offensive, as bolded, and shows a complete lack of recognition that other people may have different constraints.[/quote]

I'm not the person that wrote the comment about oddballs.  I will say though that for most, though maybe not all,  there is the possibility of getting a sitter for time on the weekend.  Having a babysitting swap is one option to save money if you aren't fortunate enough to have family locally that can help out.  I really think if it is a priority, you can find a way at some point before the kids are out of high school. For some it isn't a priority and I get that.  I just think all relationships need attention (the ones with your kids, your spouse, your family, your friends,) you want them to thrive.[/quote]

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