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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She outearns you by a "wide margin" with only a couple years ago difference.  Maybe she doesnt want to tie herself, financially, to someone who's not on her level. But maybe she's lonely and wants someone to chill with.

That's my guess.[/quote]

But if you were a good "catch" (which she is). Above average looks (I'd say 7.5/10, though I hate rankings crap), above average intelligence, and a huge income, why wouldn't you run out and look for your mate when you're still under 40? At 33, I don't really have the same priorities/concerns (esp. since kids aren't a priority of mine). It just baffles me. We may not be married, but I'm benefitting financially right now for sure. We live in her house and she pays the mortgage. [/quote]

Except that when you two break up, she gets to keep the house and you have to bounce.  Financially, it might be worth it to her to have a young guy around that she's not wanting to be with long term.  Wealthy men do it all the time- essentially "keep" a woman, and when they get bored, it's on to the next on, and their ex has to find their own place, make their own money, all that jazz.[/quote]

"Keep around"... we're talking nearly 4 years. And she's 2.5 years from 40. Maybe if I was a great lay or looked like Matthew McConaughey and was eye candy to make others jealous you'd have a point. But as other posters have pointed out, I'm not. I find this so amusing. Some posters here are saying I must be fat and ugly. Others using my youth and looks to justify why she's keeping me around. No one has a good theory here.[/quote]

Different people like different things.  For me, I'm pretty hot, and I like my men to be as hot or hotter than me.  So I like ripped abs, biceps, good face, all that jazz.  You obviously would not qualify.

But your lady doesnt sound so hot herself.  Maybe, for her, you are hot.  And maybe she is just lonely.  Maybe she wants companionship and you can provide that.  i feel like if she wanted hot sex, she would go elsewhere, since she obviously isnt turned on by you.  But maybe she just wants to feel in a relationship, wants to have someone, even if she doesnt want you for the long term.

It happens all the time- I had plenty of relationships before I got married where I knew I didn't want to be with them long term.  Of course, those guys were hot bad boys, and you are not one- but maybe, for whatever reason, she is still excited/ intrigued by you.  So for as long as that lasts, you will have a free place to stay.  Yay for you, for now. [/quote]

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