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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your sister needs to contact the B&B and read the fine print of the contract.  She should pay whatever needs to be paid to cancel the event, but depending on how far in the future the event is, it may just be a matter of forfeiting the deposit.

And then I think you need to stay out of it, unless your niece comes to you directly to complain.  In that case, you should say that you understand that she is upset and angry, and that your sister should not have made a promise she couldn't keep.  However, the best thing she can do is let that go and work on planning a wedding that she can afford.  Offer to help, if you can--researching new venues, offering whatever DIY skills you have, etc.  [/quote]

Bingo. Great post.

OP, as others have asked, when is this wedding? If it's far enough off, there may be loopholes to get out of it that the bride just doesn't see (or doesn't want to see). If your sister contacts the B&B she may find that she only owes a deposit. Is sister letting daughter be the sole go-between and source of information about these contractual details like "the B&B forces us to use these vendors" etc.? Your sister should have a copy of all contracts etc. already and should know for herself what is or is not covered, how deposit refunds work, deadlines for cancellations, etc. I'd really pick up the phone ASAP if I were sister. Maybe you can simply suggest that sister find out what the deal is. I'm not saying niece is lying, but niece sounds so young that she likely hasn't ever asked about "What if things go wrong and we have to cancel?"

I like the response above that you can use if your niece vents to you about this. You don't want to badmouth your sister, who after all has admitted she was wrong to over-promise. The response above acknowledges niece's emotions but focuses on moving on and not making this about her mother/your sister.

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